What makes you attracted to one person and not another? We're bringing back our most popular episode ever with Dr. Paul Eastwick about his work at the UC Davis Attraction Lab of how people form and maintain relationships. We discuss how ideal partner preferences play into partner selection, why we often think we know what we want when we don't, and the secret of when attraction can build over time. Plus we'll kick off the episode with a new intro recapping Yue's solo trip + the intimacy workshop she attended, and Julie's bday highs and lows. Plus BIG announcement coming next week!!!

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The Science Of Attraction: A Flashback to Our Most Popular Episode