Optimal Living Daily - Personal Development and Self-Improvement 3793: You Don’t Have to Adjust Who You Are to Please Others by Charlotte Hosier with Tiny Buddha
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Nov 2, 2025 A journey from people-pleasing to authenticity unfolds as Charlotte Hosier reveals the burnout and self-alienation that arise from seeking approval. She emphasizes assessing core beliefs that drive such behaviors and encourages small acts of honesty to reclaim one's true self. By questioning these beliefs, individuals can regain control and strive for genuine self-expression. The discussion highlights the importance of listening to oneself instead of continuously adjusting to others, paving the way for a more fulfilling life.
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Polite Good Girl Turned Burned Out
- Charlotte Hozier describes growing up as the polite good girl who hid preferences to avoid burdening others.
- By her mid-twenties she was successful outwardly but miserable inside, which led to depression and therapy.
Comfort Masks A Costly Habit
- People-pleasing can feel comfortable and controllable while secretly costing your happiness.
- Charlotte connects the habit to a root belief that being someone else secures love and acceptance.
Question Core Beliefs Directly
- Ask yourself: 'Can I absolutely know that it's true?' to interrogate your core beliefs.
- Also ask: 'Is it helpful?' to decide whether the belief moves you toward your goals.
