PsycHacks Episode 545: Don't be her option (why you get left on read)
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Aug 18, 2025 Delve into the dynamics of modern romance, where many men find themselves as mere options rather than priorities. Discover how overcommitting can make you less appealing and the vital role of confidence in attraction. The conversation also touches on negotiation techniques that apply to both dating and career choices, showcasing how patience and maintaining leverage can lead to superior outcomes. Explore these fascinating insights for better relationships and personal value!
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Options Versus Priorities
- Most men become a woman's option rather than her priority because many women keep backup partners.
- Being an option means getting sidelined and often left on read.
The Law Of Attraction
- The fundamental law of attraction: people want what they want, not what wants them.
- You cannot increase someone's desire by wanting them more; sometimes wanting less helps.
Negotiate Relationships
- Treat relationships like negotiations with attraction, negotiation, and maintenance phases.
- Don't fumble the negotiation or you'll lose opportunities like getting no coffee (i.e., no outcome).
