I Feel That Way Too

Am I A Bad Daughter?

Jun 10, 2025
Sahaj Kaur Kohli, an award-winning therapist and founder of Brown Girl Therapy, joins to explore the nuances of love within immigrant families. They discuss the balance between familial obligations and personal needs, diving into concepts like enmeshment and parentification. Emotions around financial support are also tackled, revealing deep-seated expectations and fears. This heartfelt conversation emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and the empowering journey of redefining relationships while maintaining one’s sense of self.
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INSIGHT

Enmeshment in Immigrant Families

  • Immigrant families often have enmeshed relationships with loose boundaries to protect against external harm.
  • This protective adaptation can create dependency and hierarchical family dynamics that feel suffocating.
INSIGHT

Parentification's Emotional Toll

  • Parentification causes children to take on adult roles emotionally and practically.
  • It can cause emotional neglect and long-term people-pleasing and perfectionism patterns.
ANECDOTE

Financial Boundaries Break Silence

  • Michelle MiJung Kim tried setting financial boundaries with her mom to reduce guilt.
  • The effort broke their unspoken dance where love was shown silently, causing emotional pain for both.
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