Why Your AI Chatbot Is Hurting Your Ability to Connect & Communicate in IRL Relationships | E486

AI has woven itself into our daily lives so quietly and so quickly that many of us don’t even realize how emotionally attached we’re becoming to it... and your AI chatbot might be destroying the way you connect & communicate in your relationships in real life.

My guest, Dr. Rachel Wood, a licensed counselor with a PhD in cyberpsychology, helps us make sense of why AI feels so safe, so comforting, and in some cases so intimate, and what it means for our real relationships when a chatbot becomes the place we go to feel understood.

We talk about the very real appeal of an AI companion that never gets tired, never gets defensive, and always seems to “get” you. And we also talk about the moments when that dynamic crosses into something unhealthy: when an omnibot becomes your therapist, your best friend, your partner, and your decision-maker… all at once. Rachel shares examples of how dependency forms, how delusions can develop, and why our relational and cognitive “muscles” matter more than ever in this new landscape.

This conversation isn’t anti-AI. It’s about staying awake, staying human, and staying connected to ourselves and to each other while we navigate a technology that is becoming surprisingly personal.

Episode Breakdown:
00:00 How AI Is Changing Human Relationships
09:20 The Spectrum of AI Relationships
20:18 Cognitive Offloading and Its Real-World Consequences
27:31 Using AI for Growth Without Losing Agency
32:59 When AI Becomes a Dependency
37:07 The Dangers of AI Escalation: A Suicidality Case Study
43:03 AI in Therapy: Tool or Replacement?
51:16 How to Support Someone Attached to Their AI

If you’re listening to this and realizing you may be leaning on AI a little more than feels good, or maybe you’re worried about someone you love, please know you’re not alone. These are tender places, and they deserve real, caring support. If you’d like a safe space to sort through what’s coming up for you, or if you’re craving more connection and clarity in your relationships, I’d love to help you get started. You can schedule a consultation with me or someone on my team.

Tell us what’s on your heart and what you’re hoping for. We’ll help you get matched with the right support so you can feel steady, understood, and empowered again. 💗

xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self