Ep 17 - The Caddy Principle: Why Great Leaders Carry More Than Their Own Bag | The Whetstone

📝 Episode Summary:

In this episode of The Whetstone, Dredd, Dark Helmet, and The Plague go deep on what it really means to lead as a man in the second half of life. They answer a listener’s question on finding a mentor (a Whetstone), then dive into the daily work of loving your wife, raising up the next generation, and avoiding the slow slide into missional drift.

From golf caddies to Proverbs 31, they explore why the ultimate promotion isn’t a title—it’s stepping into a role that serves others, sharpens habits, and leads with love—not control.

✨ What You’ll Learn in This Episode: ✅ How to find a Whetstone (mentor) inside or outside F3
✅ Daily questions that build an unshakable marriage
✅ The Caddy Principle: Why legacy is built by carrying someone else’s bag
✅ Persuasion vs. Manipulation: What kind of influence are you using?
✅ How Positive Habit Transfer keeps F3 on mission
✅ The “Emeritus Role” and why it’s the highest form of leadership
✅ Rituals, rhythms, and why men need structure to love well
✅ What to do when you’re tempted to drift or disconnect

🔊 Favorite Sound Bites: 🗣️ “She’s not a checkbox. She’s a covenant.”
🗣️ “The caddy carries the bag, blocks the rain, and celebrates the win.”
🗣️ “Positive habit transfer is how F3 scales without losing its soul.”
🗣️ “Don’t control. Don’t coerce. Lead with love.”
🗣️ “The emeritus isn’t out of the game—he’s in the best position to coach it.”

⏰ Timestamps for Skimming or Study: 00:00 – Intro: Socks, Jokes, and Why This Matters
02:30 – Listener Q&A: How to Find a Mentor (Whetstone)
06:44 – Marriage: A Covenant, Not a Contract
10:39 – Daily AAR: Protect, Honor, Celebrate
13:06 – Proverbs 31 and the Man’s Role
16:25 – The 20-Second Hug: Why Men Need Rituals
19:37 – Leading at Home: Love vs. Control
25:11 – The Caddy Principle: What Legacy Looks Like
33:53 – From the Spotlight to the Sideline: The Emeritus Transition
39:09 – Avoiding Drift: How F3 Stays Missional
45:02 – Calm Leadership: Why Men Don’t Run in the Rain
50:03 – Positive Habit Transfer and the Future of F3
51:56 – Final Takeaways

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