Reclaiming Pleasure After Sexual Trauma: Trusting Your Body, Dating Again & Owning Your Sexual Sovereignty with Violet Lange

Apr 10, 2021

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What if your body already knows the way back to pleasure?

In this deeply honest and empowering conversation, I’m joined by Violet Lange — dating and intimacy coach, creator of The Pleasure Path, and a survivor of childhood sexual abuse who has walked her own journey of reclamation, healing, and sexual sovereignty.

Together, we explore what it really takes to trust your body again after trauma — not through force or performance, but through presence, sensation, and self-honoring choices.

Because healing isn’t about “fixing” yourself.

It’s about coming home to your body.

Violet shares how early abuse shaped her relationships for years — showing up as dissociation during sex, pushing partners away, numbness, shutdown, and believing that “good sex” meant pleasing someone else.

Through somatic therapy, Reiki, embodied awareness practices, and tools like jade egg work, she slowly rebuilt trust with her body and learned to follow pleasure as a compass rather than performance as a goal.

This episode is especially supportive for anyone navigating:
• intimacy challenges
• dating after trauma
• dissociation during sex
• difficulty feeling pleasure
• or learning how to say a true yes and no

We explore:

• The difference between “doing” sex vs being present in your body
• How trauma shows up as shutdown, nausea, dryness, or dissociation
• Learning to trust your body’s signals and boundaries
• Why safety allows old memories to surface
• The role of somatic therapy and relational healing
• Reclaiming self-touch and ownership of your body
• Jade egg practices and pelvic embodiment
• How pleasure builds power and boundaries
• Choosing yourself — even when it’s inconvenient or scary
• Confronting perpetrators and bringing truth into the light
• Dating and intimacy from a place of sovereignty, not survival

Violet’s story is a reminder that your past does not define your future.

Pleasure is not something you earn.

It’s something your body remembers.

And when you learn to follow it, your life changes.