How to Build Real Emotional & Sexual Connection

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Aug 1, 2025

Discover the challenges of intimacy and the impact of porn on relationships. Tackle mismatched libidos and long dry spells with practical advice for rekindling connection. Explore the nuances of online dating and the importance of emotional availability. Engage in conversations about sex beyond the bedroom, and learn how to build trust after betrayal. With humor and empathy, the discussion emphasizes the power of open communication and vulnerability in restoring closeness.

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INSIGHT

Online Dating Can Increase Loneliness

Online dating often worsens loneliness because it lacks deep, satisfying connections.
Real intimacy requires time, face-to-face interaction, and trust that technology can't fully deliver.

ADVICE

Communicate for Better Orgasms

Communicate openly with partners about sexual needs to overcome performance and orgasm difficulties.
Explore what worked previously and use mutual guidance to build a better sexual connection.

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Bad Boy Equals Good Sex Myth

People often associate exciting sex with bad relationships due to mental links formed from past experiences.
This cognitive link can hinder experiencing pleasure with healthier partners until addressed.

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Join the SmartSX Membership: https://sexwithemily.com/smartsx Access exclusive sex coaching, live expert sessions, community building, and tools to enhance your pleasure and relationships with Dr. Emily Morse. List & Other Sex With Emily Guides: https://sexwithemily.com/guides/ Explore pleasure, deepen connections, and enhance intimacy using these Sex With Emily downloadable guides. SHOP WITH EMILY!: https://bit.ly/3rNSNcZ (free shipping on orders over $99) Want more? Visit the Sex With Emily Website: https://sexwithemily.com/ In this vulnerable and honest episode, Dr. Emily Morse answers listener questions about intimacy challenges, porn use, mismatched libidos, and fears around vulnerability. Whether you're dealing with long dry spells, sexual disconnection, or the impacts of pornography, this episode offers real advice for navigating modern relationships with more compassion and clarity. We explore the difference between healthy porn use and problematic patterns, it becomes an issue when it's used to avoid intimacy or sets unrealistic expectations. Emily encourages honest conversations and mutual understanding around porn preferences while addressing mismatched libidos and long dry spells, including one listener who hasn't had sex with his wife in four years. She suggests slow re-entry into intimacy through sensual touch, non-goal-oriented connection, and therapy if needed, emphasizing that curiosity and care open the door to reconnection. The conversation tackles performance anxiety and shame cycles, where anxiety about sex or fear of "failing" often creates a negative loop. Emily reminds listeners that pleasure doesn't need to be performance-based. Focus on feeling, not impressing. We also address women feeling pressured to perform porn-like roles, with Emily advocating for authentic expression over performing and emphasizing mutual consent and emotional check-ins. You're not broken. Whether you're questioning your libido, struggling with porn use, or feeling disconnected from a partner, there are tools to rebuild trust; starting with yourself. Drop the pressure, release the shame, and start with honest conversations. Timestamps: 0:00 - Introduction

1:26 - Why Online Dating When Lonely Makes Things Worse

10:00 - Dating App Photo Disasters

18:15 - Can't Orgasm with New Partner After Amazing Ex

24:20 - Military Deployment: Managing Porn Use & Intimacy

27:00 - Breaking Through Sexual Communication Barriers

31:30 - Rebuilding Trust After Cheating