25. Current reality first - then add in the aspirational changes
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Oct 16, 2023
Learn the importance of managing current reality before making aspirational changes. Understand the pitfalls of trying to create a new system while injecting aspiration. Discover strategies for realistic time management and problem-solving. Emphasize the need to focus on current reality and create breathing space. Understand the importance of dealing with current reality and having a system to manage time.
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Sequence Reality Before Aspiration
Create a system to manage your current reality before changing that reality aspirationally.
Trying to build a new system and change habits simultaneously overwhelms the process.
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Calendar Invisible To-Dos Like Showering
Kelly uses calendaring
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Calendar Real Durations
Calendar actual durations, not aspirational ones, for routine tasks like getting ready.
Use realistic timings to spot choke points and stop blaming yourself or the system.
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When we aim to get a handle on our time and task management, we sometimes inadvertently try to do two big things at once:
Create a new system; and
At the same time, inject aspiration into how we use our time in a way that departs from our current reality.
It makes total sense but can have some big pitfalls. Let's talk about why we need to address our current reality before working in aspirational goals so we can set ourselves up to actually get the reality – current and future – that we want.
In this episode, I break down:
Why combining a new system with immediate aspirational changes rarely works
A simple but common mistake people make when calendaring things like "showering and getting ready" (and why it matters!)
The 3 key reasons you need to manage your current life before changing it:
So you can spot the real problems and solve them in a lasting, creative way
So you gain brain space to even consider where you want to go next
So you can plan long-term goals in a realistic and sustainable way
How getting your reality into a system (like the Bright Method) opens up space to dream—and then map those dreams into your actual calendar
If you've ever tried a new planner, time-blocking approach, or goal-setting strategy and it didn't stick, this episode might help you understand why—and give you a more practical way to make lasting progress.
And if you're looking for a system to help you get your arms around your current reality first, check out my free five-day program at www.kellynolan.com/refresh. We'll start with where you are, organize what's already on your plate, and then talk about how to build toward what you want—without burning out on Day 3.
Let's stop trying to change everything all at once—and instead create change that lasts. I'll see you in there!
Links you might enjoy:
🌿 Free 5-Day Time Management Program Get five short, practical video lessons packed with realistic strategies to help you manage your personal and professional life with more clarity and calm.
📱 Follow me on Instagram Get bite-sized, real-life time management tips for working women—like reminders to set mail holds before travel, anonymous day-in-the-life calendars from other professional women, and behind-the-scenes looks at how I manage my own time.
✨ The full Bright Method™️ program If you're ready for a full time management system that's realistic, sustainable, and dare I say… fun, check out the Bright Method program. It's helped hundreds of professional women take back control of their time—and their peace of mind.