Stacy sits down with licensed depth therapist and author of the new book, The Motherhood Myth, Vanessa Bennett, to unpack why so many women feel overwhelmed, overextended, and exhausted by unseen emotional labor. Through the lens of depth psychology, they explore the “have it all” trap, the inner patriarchy, self-abandonment, inherited power systems, and the cultural scripts still shaping modern motherhood and partnership. From modeling conflict for our kids to untangling the sister wound and reclaiming our needs, this conversation offers clarity, validation, and a grounded path toward finally stepping off the hamster wheel.

0:00 | Vanessa Bennett & depth psychology
2:00 | Feminism, equality & the “have it all” trap
6:30 | Emotional labor, burnout & the hamster wheel
10:00 | Modeling conflict & repair for our kids
12:45 | Inner patriarchy & self-abandonment
16:00 | Power systems we inherit without realizing
18:30 | Marriage roles & old scripts that linger
22:00 | Sex, needs & emotional outsourcing
27:00 | Sister wound, witch wound & lost community
32:00 | Emotional intelligence as “both/and”
35:00 | Practical steps to stop self-abandoning
39:00 | Where to find Vanessa’s work

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Going Deeper: Emotional Labor & Why We’re So Tired w/ Vanessa Bennett