“Self worth is not something that's earned. It's something that is remembered.” –Tannaz Hosseinpour

Individualism and isolation are doing a number on us. Relationship specialist Tannaz Hosseinpour helps us see why things aren’t working — and what we can do about it.

We all want to belong, even us introverts who need time alone. We want the village we were promised, but to be able to make the most of it, we need to be able to receive it.

Tannaz and I explore both how the collective can support us and what we need as individuals to thrive.

We talk about:

How prioritizing individualism over collectivism and masculine energy over feminine leads to problems
Why we need connection to energy bigger than ourselves and learning to feel safe receiving
The impact of COVID and our resultant sense of safety on relationships now
Having an internal anchor to ground yourself
How to set boundaries with others and ourselves
5 different kinds of intimacy we crave

ABOUT TANNAZ

Tannaz Hosseinpour is a relationship coach and registered psychotherapist (qualifying) who helps individuals build emotionally secure relationships, starting with the one they have with themselves. She blends nervous system regulation, psychodynamic insights, somatic modalities and belief reprogramming to help clients break free from limiting patterns and feel safe in love, purpose, and self-expression.

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DOABLE CHANGES

At the end of every episode, we share three doable changes, so you can take what you've heard and put it into action. Action is how change happens.

Often we feel like our actions have to be huge to match the bigness of our desires, but we have seen over and over and over again that the little things add up. By stacking up a series of Doable Changes, you will create that big change that you crave. Choose the one that really resonates with you this week and really make it part of your life.

Here are Three Doable Changes from this conversation:

SMALL STEPS TO FEELING SAFE WITH PEOPLE. Post-Covid, a lot of us don’t feel safe in public or large groups, and we may not even realize it. Taking small steps to spend time with people can make a difference. Try getting together with one or two people. Breathe through discomfort. Remind yourself you are safe. Try a small group.
SET A BOUNDARY. Instead of getting angry at somebody else when you feel hurt, express your “I” statement about how you feel and what you would like. Enforce the boundary. If the other person does not respond, choose the change your actions.
TAKE A BREAK. Next time you find yourself in an argument or going around and around in circles of not understanding, take a break. Give yourself at least 20 minutes to re regulate. Come back to the conversation when all parties have had a chance to do that.

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