Divergent Conversations

Episode 105 (Season 2): Autistic Grief and Wellness: Holding Space for Hard Emotions

May 9, 2025
A raw conversation about intense grief after losing a long-term pet and the rituals people create to honor attachment. Exploration of how autism and ADHD can magnify emotional experience and complicate daily functioning. Practical talk on boundaries, scripts, and when to sit with pain versus use distraction. Discussion of communal care, collective trauma, and how animals regulate mental health.
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ANECDOTE

Loss Of A Steady Companion

  • Patrick describes putting his 11-year-old Basset hound Hazel to sleep and the deep grief that followed.
  • He details at-home euthanasia, rituals, and how Hazel's steady presence supported his mental health.
INSIGHT

Post-Discovery Emotions Intensify

  • Both hosts note discovering autism later amplifies emotional intensity and reconnects them to feeling everything.
  • This magnified affect makes grief and daily losses feel much larger after neurodiagnostic discovery.
ADVICE

Ask For Small Sensory Boundaries

  • Ask for and set boundary-based accommodations from friends (e.g., shade vs sun).
  • Surround yourself with attuned people who proactively consider your needs instead of waiting for requests.
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