Zoya Biglary, a Persian lesbian, shares her struggles with fitting in, coming out to conservative Persian parents, and defying cultural expectations. Topics discussed include balancing Persian culture and the American school system, challenges faced by LGBTQ individuals in Iran and Jordan, guilt and pressure as a first-generation child, and embracing identity while offering advice to those struggling with their cultural and sexual identity.
Growing up as a Persian person in Orange County, California, comes with challenges of isolation and not fitting in due to negative stereotypes.
Coming out as gay to conservative Persian parents is a journey of fear, initial rejection, and gradual acceptance.
Deep dives
Growing up between cultures
The speaker shares their experience of growing up in Orange County, California, as a Persian person. They discuss the challenges of feeling isolated and not fitting in due to being from a region that experienced negative stereotypes after September 11th. They also highlight the difficulty of navigating cultural differences, such as not celebrating certain holidays.
The complexities of Persian culture
The podcast explores the history and contributions of Persian culture, highlighting its advancements in various fields and emphasizing the disconnect between the historical Persian Empire and the current portrayal of the region. The speaker discusses the frustration of being associated with negative stereotypes and the desire to hold onto their cultural identity while assimilating in society.
The struggle of coming out to conservative parents
The speaker opens up about their journey of coming out as gay to their Persian parents, recounting the initial fear and hesitation, as well as the emotional rollercoaster that followed. They discuss the initial negative reactions from their parents and the challenging years that followed, which strained their relationship. However, they also touch on the gradual acceptance and how their parents eventually came around.
Influence and impact of online presence
The speaker shares the impact of their online presence in creating a supportive community for queer Middle Eastern individuals. They receive thousands of messages from people seeking advice, expressing gratitude, or sharing their own struggles. The speaker acknowledges the hate and negativity they receive, but emphasizes that the positive impact overshadows it.
Zoya Biglary joins Mal on the conversation couch to share her struggles with fitting in, coming out to her conservative Persian parents, and defying cultural expectations. Even though Zoya forgot to bring a piece of fruit, she peels back the layers of trauma and challenges that made her the out and proud Middle Eastern lesbian she is today. This episode is as aspirational as it is heartwarming, with subtle notes of sadness, and pairs nicely with a glass of chilled red wine. Salamati!
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