Ecstatic Belonging: Sacred Intimacy, Erotic Community & Life After Retirement with Caffyn Jesse

What happens when a lifelong teacher of intimacy finally steps off the pedestal — and into freedom?

In this return conversation, I welcome Caffyn Jesse back to the podcast two years after retiring from the Institute for the Study of Somatic Sex Education, the pioneering training program they co-founded.

Instead of slowing down, Caffyn’s life force has only expanded.

With fewer roles, fewer responsibilities, and more spacious mornings, their work has distilled into something even more potent: ecstatic belonging, peer intimacy, and community-based erotic healing.

Through their new platform EcstaticBelonging.com and the online Intimacy Educator training, Kain has curated decades of somatic sex education, trauma-aware touch, nervous system science, and sacred sexuality into a living, accessible body of work.

This episode explores what becomes possible when we move beyond hierarchy, beyond performance, and into authentic, peer-to-peer connection.

We talk about:

• Life after “retirement” — and why stepping down created more creativity
 • From teacher/student to peer intimacy and co-creation
 • Distilling 12+ years of teaching into the Intimacy Educator online course
 • Erotic embodiment as belonging — to self, community, and Earth
 • The window of tolerance & neural learning zone in sexual healing
 • Why safety alone isn’t enough (we also need bravery)
 • Reclaiming voice, choice, and authentic consent
 • The “Outlaw’s Journey” — trusting your inner truth over cultural norms
 • Creating conscious erotic community with friends and lovers
 • Touch as neuroplastic re-patterning and trauma integration
 • Office hours, accessibility, and making this work available to everyone
 • Psychedelic-supported bodywork — potential, caution, and ethical boundaries
 • Integration, power dynamics, and the pace of trust

This conversation feels like sitting with an elder by the fire — honest, grounded, and deeply human.

Not about technique.

Not about performance.

But about learning how to belong — in your body, in your truth, and with each other.

Explore Kain’s work

Ecstatic Belonging + free resources: https://ecstaticbelonging.com

Intimacy Educator training: https://intimacyeducator.com

More somatic sexual healing resources:
 https://rahichun.com

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