The Therapy Edit Ask Anna - my teenager hates me
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Dec 16, 2024 In this engaging discussion, Vickie Neave, known as INPOLIFE, is a content creator and artist who juggles parenting four kids. She explores the complex emotions of teen-parent relationships, including feelings of hate and relief during Christmas. Vickie emphasizes understanding the hormonal and identity shifts in teens while suggesting calm, side-by-side interactions to rebuild connections. They also tackle the dynamics of preferring one child and the importance of granting independence to nurture future relationships.
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Use Calm, Side-By-Side Talks
- Try calm, side-by-side conversations to bridge distance with a teenager rather than confrontations.
- Offer freedom while clearly expressing you would miss them and that they are always welcome to join family time.
Teenage Pushback Often Masks Inner Pain
- Teen anger often reflects their own pain and changing identity rather than true dislike of the parent.
- Seeing teenage distance as a phase helps parents step back and avoid making it about their own feelings.
Offer Choice Over Coercion For Family Time
- Let teenagers choose to join family events rather than forcing them, to preserve a better atmosphere if they do attend.
- Communicate how much their presence would mean but allow them the freedom to decide so participation feels voluntary.
