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Limerance & Why You Can't Get Them Out Of Your Head

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Sep 29, 2025
Dive into the intense world of limerance—where obsessive crushes hijack your mind and emotions! Discover how it differs from simple attraction and learn about the 'limer beast' that consumes your thoughts. Explore links to childhood attachment injuries, OCD, and ADHD. Unpack the neuroscience that fuels this compulsiveness and why it thrives on uncertainty. Dr. K shares practical strategies to regain control, like reality-based thinking and nervous system regulation, helping you break free from the overwhelming grip of limerance.
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INSIGHT

Limerence Defined As Mind‑Hijacking Obsession

  • Limerence is an overwhelming, intrusive form of romantic obsession that hijacks thoughts and identity.
  • It is distinct from normal attraction because it destabilizes life and creates an emotional rollercoaster.
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Small Signals Become Tectonic Events

  • Core features include intrusive thoughts, acute longing for reciprocation, and mood dependency on the limerent object (LO).
  • Small signals from the LO get magnified into huge emotional swings of buoyancy or ache.
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Obsession Reorders What You Care About

  • Limerence alters your motivational hierarchy so the LO eclipses career, relationships, and identity.
  • The obsession reallocates time and meaning toward chasing the LO at the expense of other goals.
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