Episode 48: Is This Mine or Theirs? Journaling for Emotional Separation

So often, without realizing it, we pick up emotions that don’t belong to us. We absorb our child’s frustration, our spouse’s stress, or our parent’s disappointment—and before long, we’re weighed down by storms that aren’t actually ours to carry.

This practice is about emotional separation. It’s not about detachment or coldness. It’s about clarity. It’s learning to sort what’s truly mine, what belongs to someone else, and how to release what isn’t mine to hold.

We’ll walk through this with three relational lenses: parenting younger kids, marriage, and navigating relationships with adult children or our own parents. Because let’s be honest—that’s where emotional lines blur the most.

Let’s practice this together right now.

1. Think of a current situation that’s weighing on you.
2. Write down every emotion you’re feeling in it.
3. For each one, ask: Mine or theirs?
   • Example: “Fear (mine). Anger (theirs). Guilt (mine, but misplaced).”
4. Circle what’s truly yours to work on. Release the rest.

Release doesn’t mean you stop caring. It means you stop over-owning. You can still pray, support, or listen. But you no longer confuse their emotional responsibility with your own.

• “Even if the storm continues, I can hold onto…”

Music by Aleksey Chistilin from Pixabay