The Lie of Self-Sufficiency: Jon Macaskill on Why Men Carry Too Much Alone

In this solo episode of Men Talking Mindfulness, Jon Macaskill steps out from behind conversation and into the quiet honesty of being alone—speaking directly to men who carry responsibility well, but carry it alone.

This episode explores the lie of self-sufficiency: how being capable, disciplined, and dependable can look like strength on the outside, yet slowly drain connection, presence, and emotional health on the inside.

Jon shares personal reflections from his own life—marriage, leadership, military service, and fatherhood—and names the patterns many men never question: staying busy instead of honest, managing instead of connecting, and confusing endurance with strength.

You’ll hear why self-sufficiency works… until it doesn’t.
Why loneliness doesn’t always look like isolation.
And why many men don’t break down—they simply flatten out.

In this episode, Jon explores:
• Why self-sufficiency is praised, rewarded, and rarely questioned
• How high-functioning men slowly lose emotional access without realizing it
• The difference between being self-sufficient and being self-contained
• How control, busyness, and “being fine” become survival strategies
• Why asking for help isn’t weakness—it’s capacity awareness
• Small, realistic shifts that don’t require becoming someone you’re not

This episode isn’t about fixing men or dismantling masculinity.
It’s about telling the truth—and offering a way to stop carrying everything alone.

If you’re a man who’s still functioning, still providing, still showing up—but feels distant, irritable, or quietly exhausted—this episode is for you.

You’ll walk away with:
-Language to understand what you’re actually carrying
-Permission to stop confusing endurance with health
-Simple awareness tools that interrupt the pattern early
-A reminder that connection doesn’t require collapse

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Links & Resources
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-Book Jon to speak with your organization: https://jonmacaskill.com

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