Is My Child A Monster? A Parenting Therapy Podcast Kathryn Part 4 of 5: When Your Teen Deserves An Apology
This is part four of the five part series. Kathryn and Leslie meet for a fourth time to continue to work on her relationship with her 17 year old daughter Bridgette. In this session, Kathryn describes the event that led to a break in trust between her and Bridgette. Leslie introduces The Three Step Apology skill to help guide Kathryn in repairing her relationship with her daughter. This skill is meant to replace the kind of apologies that have an unintentional element of blame and shame. Kathryn demonstrates the vulnerability and practice that's needed when trying to learn and implement this new skill. It's noteworthy that Kathryn was willing to make the apology first. No matter what age they are, children continue to imitate our behavior. Kathryn’s apology will model for Bridgette how to repair relationships throughout her life.
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Time stamps:
5:10 Reinforcing skills. Giving partial credit when learning skills in order to build mastery and reduce shame
8:32 Description of betrayal event
14:37 Description of Three Step Apology
20:45 Why parents get overwhelmed when dealing with their child’s issues - bringing up the past
23:55 Role Play of practicing the Three Step Apology with Kathryn
Leslie-ism: Find an opportunity to apologize to your child for your part in a conflict. You may be pleasantly surprised at the response you get from your child.
Show Note Links:
Three Step Apology A description of what the steps are and examples of how to use this skill..
Credits: Is My Child a Monster? is produced by Alletta Cooper, Dale Rubury, and Leslie
Cohen-Rubury. Theme music is by L-Ray Music. Public relations is handled by Tink Media. Graphics and Website Design by Brien O’Reilly. Transcriptions by Eric Rubury. A special thanks to everyone who contributes their wisdom and support to make this possible.