Jeffrey Rutstein, PsyD: You Can Shift the State of Your Nervous System
Dec 31, 2024
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Join Jeffrey Rutstein, a clinical psychologist and lead teacher of the Healing Trauma Program, as he delves into the fascinating connection between trauma and nervous system regulation. Discover how to shift from defensiveness to safety and belonging while learning about the vagus nerve and its role in emotional responses. Rutstein offers insights on transforming self-blame into self-compassion, managing emotional triggers, and practical techniques for achieving a healthier emotional state. It's an enlightening conversation about healing and integration.
Understanding and befriending your nervous system allows for self-regulation and healing from past traumas, promoting integration and wholeness.
Interpersonal connections and compassionate engagement play a vital role in co-regulating the nervous system, fostering safety and emotional well-being.
Deep dives
Understanding Trauma and Nervous System Dysregulation
Trauma produces a chronic dysregulation in the nervous system, influencing how individuals react to stress and threats. Dysregulated states like fight or flight, shutdown, or collapse can manifest as anxiety, anger, shame, or numbness, which limits a person's ability to enjoy life and connect with others. This dysregulation occurs because the nervous system has learned to remain in a defensive mode, influenced by past experiences that trigger automatic responses to perceived threats. The key to healing trauma involves directly working with the nervous system to reduce these chronic states and increase overall well-being.
Exploring the Stickiness of Dysregulated States
Individuals often find themselves stuck in specific dysregulated states due to their nervous systems being trained to recognize signals of danger from past traumas. For instance, a person's response to familiar, yet benign stimuli can trigger intense reactions based on early adverse experiences, causing their nervous system to revert to defensive stances. Additionally, once a person enters a defensive state, their nervous system tends to remain there, making it difficult to shift back to a regulated state. Understanding the factors that keep a nervous system dysregulated is crucial to regaining control and moving toward healthy responses.
Skills for Shifting Nervous System States
Developing awareness of one's current nervous system state is vital for healing and transformation. In the Healing Trauma Program, participants learn to identify whether they are in hyperactivation, hypoarousal, or the optimal window of tolerance, each representing different energy levels and responses. Mindfulness practices, somatic exercises, and breathing techniques are employed to facilitate shifts between these states, promoting a more balanced and stable emotional experience. By recognizing and categorizing these states, individuals become empowered to manage their responses more effectively in various situations.
The Role of Connection in Nervous System Regulation
Interpersonal connection can be a powerful tool for regulating the nervous system, as engaging with compassionate individuals fosters a sense of safety and belonging. When individuals approach conversations regulated and open, they can positively influence others, contributing to a co-regulation that promotes mutual understanding and empathy. Conversely, when engaging in discussions from a dysregulated state, individuals risk escalating tensions and creating conflict. Recognizing the states both in oneself and others before initiating interaction is key to achieving more harmonious exchanges and enhancing overall emotional well-being.
Our understanding of the human nervous system has grown exponentially in recent years, thanks to astounding discoveries from neuroscience, Polyvagal Theory, trauma research, Attachment Theory, and other emerging fields. No longer do we see the functioning of the nervous system as an unconscious process outside of our control. Today, we know that you can actually befriend and work with your nervous system to self-regulate in the face of emotionally triggering situations, release unresolved trauma from the “stuck places” inside, and reclaim a life of integration and wholeness. Sounds True’s annual training, The Healing Trauma Program, was designed expressly for these purposes. In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with psychotherapist and lead teacher of the program Dr. Jeffrey Rutstein.
Tune in for an eye-opening conversation on: the connection between unhealed trauma and nervous system dysregulation; raising self-awareness around your personal triggers and conditioned responses; shifting from defensiveness to feelings of safety and belonging; chronic dysregulation; accurately discerning when you’re in danger; the vagus nerve, the ventral vagal response, and the “tend and befriend” zone where we can be fully present; the interplay of genetics and your upbringing in the formation of your “go-to nervous system states”; a nervous system approach to transforming self-blame and shame into self-compassion and worthiness; three pools of energy—hyperarousal, hypoarousal, and the Window of Tolerance; the empowering firsthand experience of changing your nervous system states; why there are no “bad” nervous system states; why being in a regulated state is so critical to healthy relationships; neuroception; simple, on-the-spot techniques (or “nervous system hacks”) you can use to self-regulate, from breathwork to gentle stretching and more; the shortcomings of talk therapy; co-regulation and the social engagement zone; the four key questions of the aspiring nervous system co-regulator; severe trauma and how “the state drives the story”; meditation practice, the true self, and the inner “hijacker”; and more.
Note: This episode originally aired on Sounds True One, where these special episodes of Insights at the Edge are available to watch live on video and with exclusive access to Q&As with our guests. Learn more at join.soundstrue.com.
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