The Stoic Handbook by Jon Brooks

Use 'Why, What, How' Technique to Unlock The True Meaning of Discipline

Jun 29, 2023

Explore the concept of discipline and teaching using the 'Why, What, How' technique. Understand the origins of discipline and debunk misconceptions. Learn how to analyze behavior and teach valuable lessons. Discover strategies for effective teaching and recognize receptivity to learning.

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Discipline is about teaching and learning, not punishment or harsh treatment.

The 'why, what, how' technique promotes understanding, empathy, and effective communication in discipline and teaching.

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Discipline Isn't Punishment

Discipline should not be equated with punishment or harsh treatment. The word 'discipline' comes from the Latin disciplinea, meaning instruction or knowledge. This highlights that discipline is about teaching and learning. Often, when we discipline others, we mistakenly believe it involves causing discomfort or punishment. However, effective discipline is interactive, compassionate, and aimed at understanding and presenting ideas in a way that speaks to the heart. Good discipline is similar to good teaching, focusing on gaining knowledge and managing desires.

Introduction

3min

Understanding and Disciplining Children: The Why, What, How Technique

2min

Analyzing Behavior and Teaching Lessons

2min

Recognizing Receptivity and Effective Teaching

2min

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"The 'Why, What, How' technique encourages us to understand why someone is behaving a certain way, determine what we want to teach them, and find the best way to deliver the lesson."

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In today's episode, we delve into the concept of discipline and teaching. Drawing inspiration from Stoic philosophy and insights from parenting, we discover the power of the "Why, What, How" technique in building constructive relationships and fostering personal growth. This episode aims to teach you how to navigate and resolve disagreeable situations from a place of calm, curiosity and centeredness.

What's included in this episode:

The True Meaning of Discipline: Exploring its origins and debunking misconceptions.
Discipline as Teaching: Recognizing the profound connection between the two.
Optimal vs. Suboptimal Self-Teaching: Wanting to do something vs forcing yourself to do it.
Introducing The "Why, What, How" Technique: A practical framework for understanding behaviour and delivering lessons.
Parenting as a Framework For Conflict Resolution: Learning to respond to the world in the same way you do to your child.

Relevant Links:

Stoic Scroll newsletter: stoicism.substack.com
No Drama Discipline by Daniel Siegel and Tina Bryson.

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