The Psychology of your 20s 352. How to deal with someone who is ALWAYS the victim
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Nov 10, 2025 Explore the intriguing world of victim mentality and how it shapes perceptions. Discover the signs of this mindset—like externalized blame and moral superiority. Learn about the role of trauma and how the brain solidifies a victim identity. Delve into the overlap between victimhood and covert narcissism, and understand the toll it takes on relationships. Get insights on setting boundaries and managing emotional labor while maintaining compassion—without enabling toxic behavior.
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Victim Mentality Is A Stable Cognitive Pattern
- A victim mentality is a habitual pattern where someone perceives themselves as wronged even when evidence contradicts it.
- People high in this trait interpret neutral events as hostile and cling to perceived injustices.
Coworker Who Saw Victimhood Everywhere
- Jemma recalls a coworker who turned every event, even imaginary ones, into evidence they were wronged.
- The coworker would claim bullying or scams and assume they'd always be the unlucky recipient.
External Blame And Moral Superiority
- Victim-minded people externalize blame and typically have an external locus of control.
- They often feel morally superior, expect entitlement, and dramatize experiences to gain sympathy.
