Multiamory: Rethinking Modern Relationships 528 - The Art of Stepping Back: De-escalation
May 6, 2025
Explore the art of de-escalation in relationships, diving into the emotional intricacies of separating and transitioning from romantic to platonic connections. Discover the concept of 'conscious uncoupling' and how younger generations are reshaping perceptions of breakups. The hosts tackle the challenges of maintaining intimacy post-relationship while emphasizing the importance of clear communication. Personal stories and insights illustrate the need for intentionality in navigating these complexities, helping listeners approach relationship changes with mindfulness.
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Personal Journey with De-escalation
- Jace and Emily experienced moving from monogamy to non-monogamy, initially calling it a breakup without the term de-escalation.
- Using 'breakup' caused hurt feelings, while 'de-escalation' might have framed the change better for them.
De-escalation as Nuanced Transition
- De-escalation can be a nuanced way to maintain connection, unlike a traditional breakup which cuts ties.
- Consider needs and expectations changing, like entanglement being too quick, to decide on de-escalation.
Clarify De-escalation Expectations
- Take time away from a relationship to let feelings settle if you're de-escalating to help both move on.
- Be clear about whether de-escalation means potential reconciliation or a true break to avoid confusion.