Optimal Relationships Daily - Dating, Marriage and Parenting 2796: [Part 2] On Human Nature by Elana Miller of Zen Psychiatry on Life Perspective
Nov 12, 2025
Elana Miller shares a candid look at the emotional struggles of living with illness and the unintended consequences of others' well-meaning intrusions. She emphasizes the importance of setting boundaries and being selective about whom to invest her limited emotional energy in. The discussion highlights the disparity in self-awareness across different ages and the need to learn from both personal and historical experiences. Elana also expresses gratitude for true support and shares her hope for a future where she can grow beyond her illness.
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Unwanted Emotional Unloading
- Elena Miller describes a former co-worker who sat with her and unloaded personal problems for twenty minutes while she awaited a doctor's appointment.
- She felt pressured to endure the conversation and chose to prioritize ending the intrusion over engaging.
Physical Boundary Violation At A BBQ
- Elena recounts a stranger at a BBQ who began rubbing her back and insisting she was okay without consent.
- She recoiled and used a quick reassurance to stop the unwanted contact.
Being Objectified By Others' Needs
- Elena observes that people often treat her as an object to serve their emotional needs rather than as a person.
- She notes visible vulnerability can invite others to project their issues onto you without regard.