Changing Our Stories, Regulating Our Nervous System & Slowing Down Conversations-Daniel Dashnaw

On this episode of the podcast, AANE certified therapist, Daniel Dashnaw, from Couples Therapy, Inc. provides important information about how the stories and narratives we create, impact our neurodiverse relationships and our nervous systems.  He also addresses how partners may experience a polarity in emotional styles that can lead to a clash around the stories both partners "tell" themselves.  Daniel talks about how he helps both partners "slow down" and unpack the stories and narratives to create better understanding and reduce conflict in their relationship.  He also shares how he creates structure in conflict and provides couples with concrete tools that can be used to reduce nervous system overwhelm and flooding.

Daniel also addresses:

• The challenges of marathon emotional sharing.
• The value of "soft start-ups"
• How a clash of expectations impacts both partners.
• How trauma impacts our brains.
• The importance of special interests for re-regulating the nervous system.
• Understanding the impact of mind-blindness.
• Finding ways to increase understanding of both partner's perspectives.
• Cognitive empathy.
• The importance of asking: "What kind of relationship do you want to have?; "What kind of partner do you want to be?"; and "What is the distance between the two?"

If you are interested in contacting Daniel you can reach him at: www.couplestherapyinc.com

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If you are interested in becoming an AANE certified therapist, or coach, or would like to register for the "Neurology Matters" training available through AANE for neurodiverse couples, or individuals in neurodiverse relationships, you can register at: aane.thinkific.com.  In addition, please use the discount code NeurodiverseLove25 to get 25% off the registration fee. 

If you are looking for an AANE certified therapist or coach in your area, or want to learn more about AANE, please check out their website at: www.AANE.org

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