Sam, a mindfulness and social emotional learning teacher, discusses the negative effects of the optimization vortex on relationships and happiness. They explore habits of mind that arise from self-improvement and ways to naturally increase dopamine levels.
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The compulsion to constantly optimize can lead to a loss of perspective and feelings of inadequacy.
Being aware of the brain's reward center and finding natural ways to boost dopamine levels can be beneficial.
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The Optimization Vortex
The speaker shares their experience of getting caught up in what they refer to as the optimization vortex. They describe a situation where they were trying to find the best deals for a trip, constantly searching for coupon codes and getting fixated on finding the highest discount. They explain how this compulsion to optimize can be both helpful and stifling, leading to a loss of perspective and causing feelings of inadequacy for themselves and others. They highlight the importance of recognizing these tendencies and finding a balance between optimizing and maintaining relational harmony.
Understanding Habits and Dopamine
The speaker discusses the role of the brain's reward center and dopamine in forming habits and addictive behaviors. They explain that engaging in rewarding activities, such as saving money or watching TV shows, triggers a rush of dopamine. They emphasize the importance of being aware of this mechanism and pausing to acknowledge the sensations in the body and the shift in mood or energy. The speaker also mentions that it's important to let go of judgment towards activities like gaming and highlights other natural ways to boost dopamine levels, such as being in the sun, taking cold showers, meditating, and listening to music.
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The Optimization Vortex and its Effects on Relationships and Happiness
Many of us have a drive to perfect everything. In this vortex of self-improvement, we can lose sight of how beautiful we, and those around us, already are.
Sam has taught mindfulness and social emotional learning to teens, families and adults all over the world for more than 12 years. She obtained her master’s degrees in clinical and educational psychology from Columbia University, and an M.S. in emotion science from Mid-Sweden University. You can reach out to Sam on Instagram here!