Neurodiverse Love with Mona Kay Sensory and Sex-Ashley Grubbs
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Jan 6, 2026 Dr. Ashley Grubbs, a licensed professional counselor and sex therapist specializing in neurodiversity, shares valuable insights on navigating sensory issues in sexuality. She discusses how various hypersensitivities—like sight, sound, and touch—can derail intimacy, offering practical solutions such as eye masks and tactile strategies. Grubbs also highlights hyposensitivities, explaining the need for heightened stimuli and how to adapt intimacy to accommodate these differences. Her approach emphasizes open communication and consent to enhance connection for neurodiverse couples.
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Sex Involves More Than Five Senses
- Bodies have more than five senses and many impact sexual experience beyond sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch.
- Ashley Grubbs highlights balance, interoception, and proprioception as critical but often overlooked sexual senses.
Hypersensitivity Can Overwhelm Sex
- Autistic people commonly experience hypersensitivity that makes sexual stimuli overwhelming very quickly.
- Hypersensitivity can show across sight, sound, smell, taste, touch, balance, interoception, and proprioception.
Understimulation Feels Like Boredom
- Hyposensitivity is the opposite problem where people feel understimulated and disconnected during sex.
- It can present as needing stronger visuals, louder sounds, firmer touch, or constant novelty to feel engaged.
