Ep087: Why Men’s Emotional Wellbeing is Declining & How to Fix It with Connor Beaton

Mar 14, 2024

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One of the most understated things that most men carry around unknowingly is some type of deep grief or sadness that comes from your childhood.

But therapy, which is dominated by women, doesn’t give the best route to confront, address, and accept these deep-seated feelings. To make matters worse, most men are so out of touch with their emotions that they can only try to explain them logically.

But emotions don’t happen in your head. They live in your body.

Understanding this tells us why so many men lead lives of quiet desperation, isolation, and depression. And nobody’s a better guide to healing your emotional wellbeing than today’s guest: Connor Beaton, founder of ManTalks.

Connor had it all on the outside looking in. But behind the scenes, his life was falling apart in every aspect.

One day, after hitting rock bottom, Connor apprenticed under an old-school psychologist. And since then, he’s not only turned his life around, but leads other men to transform themselves.

Connor reveals a ton in this episode including…

Tactical ways to improve your emotional awareness and health
The root cause of why you find yourself in a repeating cycle of self-sabotage
How doing psychological shadow work can improve your marriage (and save you from divorce)
Why men are so bad at understanding their emotions (and easy ways to improve your emotional IQ)

And so much more.

The state of men’s emotional health is in sharp decline. But Connor has strategies and tactics that can help.

Other highlights from this episode include:

How replacing the word “therapy” with this is the easiest way to start your emotional wellness journey (3:30)
The emotional health of men is in sharp decline: These are the 4 main reasons why (7:54)
Why it’s paramount for men to define masculinity instead of continuing to let society define it for us (13:52)
How female-centric psychology deprives men of key aspects they need for therapy to be effective (16:12)
Who else struggles to share their deepest problems with other men? Connor reveals how to have these tough conversations here… (24:43)
How your inner dialogue shatters your confidence, fills you with shame, and traps you in isolation (29:05)
Do you feel like you’re on a roller coaster of self-destruction? This is the reason why… (32:54)
2 tactical tricks you can start today to turn your inner critic into your inner hype man (35:55)
The self-fulfilling “Shadow” prophecy that causes unnecessary suffering in men’s lives—and how to break out of this vicious cycle (50:08)
How ignoring your shadow parts make them grow stronger and more destructive (and how to mine the gold from them instead) (54:02)
Why all your deepest fears and insecurities rear their ugly heads in your relationship—and how to accept them before they undermine your marriage (1:12:35)
The “Charge & Intensity” secret for getting out of your head and into your body to feel your emotions (1:20:41)

Resources mentioned on this episode:

1. ManTalks: Need help applying what Connor talked about in this episode? Head to his website, Man Talks, here to learn more: https://mantalks.com/

2. ManTalks Podcast: Check out Connor’s podcast, Man Talks, wherever you listen to podcasts.

3. Follow ManTalks on Instagram: @ManTalks or via this link: https://www.instagram.com/mantalks/