Enneagram Types and Relationships: Is Your Personality Compatible with Your Partner's? | Love and Relationships | E495

If you want to feel happier in your relationships, understanding Enneagram types changes everything. This growth-focused conversation dives into love, happiness, and emotional intimacy through the lens of personality. You'll learn why different Enneagram personality types experience emotions and relationships differently and how couples can grow and heal by improving communication, mindset, and self-awareness through understanding each other's Enneagram type.

In this episode, I’m sharing a meaningful and wide-ranging conversation with Ian Morgan Cron, a bestselling author, psychotherapist, Enneagram teacher, and host of the Typology podcast. Together, we explore how Enneagram types shape relationship dynamics, why misunderstandings happen even in loving partnerships, and how learning each other’s emotional wiring can lead to deeper connection instead of ongoing frustration.

We talk about why love and attachment can feel so powerful, why it’s often harder than expected to let go of unhealthy relationships, and how personality patterns influence conflict, empathy, and emotional pacing. We also dig into Enneagram and relationships, including how different Enneagram types process feelings, respond to stress, and experience intimacy in very different ways. I share personal insights about discovering my own Enneagram 7 tendencies and how that awareness changed the way I understand closeness, independence, and emotional connection in my own relationships.

As you listen, I invite you to notice where you may be assuming your partner experiences the world the same way you do. Understanding Enneagram personality types isn’t about labeling or fixing yourself or your partner. It’s about building compassion, improving communication, and creating relationships where both people feel understood and emotionally safe.

Episode Breakdown:

00:00 The Relationship Mistake That Affects All Enneagram Types

03:55 Dr. Lisa’s Enneagram Shift: From Type 3 to Enneagram 7

10:15 Enneagram Testing and Why Many People Mistype

15:54 Enneagram 7 in Relationships: Emotional Pacing and Empathy

23:43 Is Love Addictive? Attachment and Codependency in Relationships

34:50 Enneagram Types and Relationships: Using Differences to Grow

39:13 Compatibility vs. Companionability in Enneagram Relationships

52:05 A Relationship Exercise to Understand Your Enneagram Dynamic

If this episode helped you see your relationship patterns more clearly, or helped you understand why certain dynamics keep repeating, I’d love to offer you a thoughtful next step. You’re invited to schedule a free consultation designed to help you find the right kind of support for where you are right now. By answering three quick questions, we’ll thoughtfully match you with a counselor or coach who understands relationships, personality, and the kind of growth you’re working toward. This is a private, secure experience and a genuine gift of support, and it only takes a couple of minutes to get started.

xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Growing Self