Logan Ury, a behavioral scientist and dating coach, shares her expertise in navigating modern romance. She discusses the science of dating and how to approach love without chasing a fleeting spark. Key topics include new strategies for dating post-pandemic, the neuroscience behind attraction, and the rise of open relationships, especially among older couples. Logan also emphasizes the importance of genuine connections over traditional checklists and advocates for self-awareness in dating. Tune in for a refreshing take on forming meaningful relationships!
Logan Ury emphasizes that understanding one’s dating patterns and categorizing into romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators can foster healthier relationships.
The podcast discusses the significance of community and support systems, especially for men, to combat feelings of isolation in dating.
Ury reveals that dating later in life is an emerging trend, challenging traditional norms and promoting authentic connections among older adults.
Deep dives
Navigating Vision Loss and Communication
Graham Isidore shares his experience with keratoconus, a progressive eye disease, emphasizing the emotional challenges of losing vision. He explains that discussing vision loss with others presents obstacles, making effective communication vital. Graham aims to raise awareness about hidden disabilities and the feelings associated with them by sharing personal stories. This approach highlights the often unseen emotional toll of disabilities, fostering understanding and empathy among audiences.
The Changing Landscape of Dating for Older Adults
The conversation around the new Netflix series 'Later Daters' sheds light on the emerging trend of dating later in life, particularly for individuals aged 55 and older. Logan Urie serves as the dating coach, guiding participants in navigating the complexities of finding love again. The show captures the nuances of older daters’ experiences, emphasizing the importance of understanding their family dynamics in the dating process. This shift acknowledges a growing interest in authentic connections for older generations, challenging traditional dating norms.
Understanding Dating Trends and Challenges
Logan Urie discusses the increasing numbers of online dating users and the unique challenges faced by those dating later in life. She highlights the cultural phenomena surrounding shows like 'The Golden Bachelor', reflecting society’s growing interest in older individuals seeking love. The podcast emphasizes the importance of understanding oneself and evaluating past dating patterns to improve future relationships. Urie stresses that dating is a skill that can be developed through practice, encouraging listeners to embrace the learning process.
Dating Mindsets: Types of Daters Explained
Logan introduces her framework categorizing daters into three types: romanticizers, maximizers, and hesitators. Romanticizers hold unrealistic expectations for relationships, while maximizers focus on finding the perfect partner, often leading to dissatisfaction. Hesitators avoid dating due to self-doubt, which can hinder their journey to love. By recognizing these tendencies, individuals can identify and tackle their own dating patterns, paving the way for healthier relationships.
The Role of Community and Support in Relationships
The discussion touches on the importance of community and support systems in fostering healthy relationships, particularly for men. Logan notes that men often lack spaces to openly discuss their dating struggles, leading to feelings of isolation. The value of male support groups is highlighted, which can empower men to engage more authentically in their dating lives. Encouraging conversations and connections within social circles can ultimately lead to more fulfilling partnerships.
It’s fall, it’s cuffing season, and maybe you’re looking for a way to extend that new, cozy relationship to a love for all seasons… Dating can be a mystery to some, but to our guest expert - it’s a scientific method! Today, we have Logan Ury from the new Netflix show The Later Daters talking to us all about how to become a better dater - at any age - and how we can say “f*ck the spark!” once and for all. Plus! We’re covering the latest Hinge data, ethical non-monogamy, and “other significant others.”
Logan Ury is a behavioral scientist turned dating coach and the author of the bestselling book How to Not Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love. She’s the dating coach on the new Netflix series — The Later Daters — from executive producer Michelle Obama. She works as Hinge’s Director of Relationship Science, conducting research on modern dating. She also writes the popular weekly newsletter — Logan's Love Letter. She studied psychology at Harvard and ran Google’s behavioral science team, the Irrational Lab. She lives in the Bay Area with her husband Scott. Later Daters premieres November 29th on Netflix.