

007: Forced Forgiveness: Misinterpreting Matthew 18 with Dr. Scot McKnight
TW/CW: references to sexual assault
Have you ever had Matthew 18 used against you?
Far too often, the forgiveness passage in Matthew 18:15–17 is weaponized against those who experience hurt and harm. Victims are forced to face their abusers, and there is no real reconciliation. The abuser walks away “forgiven” and restored, and the abused walks away humiliated and put in their place.
Yes, forgiveness is important. And, forgiveness cannot be forced. It must be a freely made choice on our part.
This conversation isn’t about holding on to our offenses, grudges, or dismissing what happened to us. It’s not about releasing our abusers from accountability or letting go of our desire for justice.
It is about the ways forgiveness has been weaponized and abused in the church. It’s about having a truly biblical and scholarly understanding of how those passages are meant to be understood. It’s about protecting ourselves from future manipulation and further abuse.
Join me and New Testament scholar Scot McKnight as we dive deep into the original language and nuance of this passage. Discover what it really says about interpersonal conflict and its role in cases of abuse or an imbalance of power. Learn about the role of repentance as implied in the original Greek, even when it doesn’t show up in our English Bibles.
Get the full show notes here.
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Episode Resources and Links
- That Sounds Fun podcast Episode 494: Dr. Scot McKnight on When You Feel Like Your Church Is Falling Apart
- That Sounds Fun podcast Episode 879: The Gospel of Matthew with Dr. Scot McKnight
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