Corey Keyes, Professor Emeritus of Sociology at Emory University and author of "Languishing: How to Feel Alive Again in a World That Wears Us Down," dives into the complex experience of languishing. He shares personal narratives of trauma and societal observations of this phenomenon, especially during the pandemic. Keyes discusses how languishing differs from depression and emphasizes the importance of community. The conversation highlights proactive steps for moving from emptiness to flourishing, including nurturing relationships and embracing vulnerability.
Languishing reflects a lack of fulfillment distinct from depression, often stemming from unresolved trauma and emotional disconnection.
Integrating activities like helping others and forming social connections can transform feelings of languishing into a flourishing life experience.
Deep dives
The Ambiguity of Languishing
Languishing is characterized as a state of emotional emptiness, often described as feeling half alive or experiencing a void in one’s soul. This experience can manifest as a lack of interest in life activities without the pervasive sadness that defines clinical depression. The podcast highlights the notion that many people who feel they are languishing do not recognize it as a mental health issue and instead may think they're simply unengaged or bored with life. This sensation is distinct from depression, as it lacks the depressive symptoms while still indicating a deeper need for fulfillment and purpose.
Experiencing Trauma and Its Aftermath
Childhood trauma can have lasting impacts on an individual's sense of self and emotional wellbeing, often resulting in feelings of languishing later in life. The guest shares his personal story of overcoming a violent upbringing, explaining how he learned to cope with trauma by shutting down emotionally. Upon finding a safe environment, the emptiness he felt highlighted the stark contrast between survival and living a fulfilling life. This experience reveals that unresolved trauma may lead to a chronic sense of languishing, necessitating a robust response to reclaim one's sense of agency and connection.
The Pandemic's Effect on Languishing
The COVID-19 pandemic has acted as a catalyst in bringing the concept of languishing to the forefront of mental health conversations, affecting individuals across various demographics. A significant number of people who previously felt engaged in their lives suddenly found themselves removed from their routines and support systems, leading to a worldwide recognition of this state of being. As people emerged from heightened states of fear and uncertainty, many expressed that they were not clinically depressed but rather felt a lack of enthusiasm and meaning in their lives. This phenomenon has highlighted that languishing transcends personal experience, becoming a collective mental health concern.
Five Vitamins for Emotional Health
To combat languishing, five activities—or 'vitamins'—are suggested to enhance one's emotional state and foster a fulfilling life. These include helping others, learning new skills, forming meaningful social connections, engaging in spiritual or religious practices, and participating in playful activities. Each of these activities encourages individuals to move away from passive leisure and invest in experiences that promote growth and joy. By intentionally integrating these 'vitamins' into daily life, people can potentially shift from a state of languishing to one of flourishing, improving their overall mental health and well-being.
Rebroadcast: Languishing. That feeling of a lack of motivation or direction. Most people feel a sense of languishing at some point in their lives. So how do we move from languishing to flourishing? Sociologist Corey Keyes has spent his career trying to find the answer.
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