290- Dr Gary Mendoza- Habits. forming them, keeping them. About failure & change. Do you underestimate how hard that change is?

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Stages Of Change

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Habits not the forming but the maintenance of the habit; why and how

If the way you change is to replace old habits with new ones, then is change only the product of repetition?

How do you change habits and mindsets?

Power of writing to mix in the visual pathway too

Importance of environment

Mindset

Identity and how to get people in a readiness state for change in a way that they arent setting themselves up for dissapointment

If its stress & emotional eating, or comfort food

EMOTIONALLY ANCHORED GOALS

--value there is no fail only toward or away

Needs feelings

When we get sick, sad, injured, have family emergencies how do we keep that habit if there’s a break in repetition?

Can the new habit continue to be formed and stabilized in those times when the repetition is temporarily broken.

perservere

Managing it

Also, comfort food. When carbs or sweets or whatever truly does comfort in times of stress, what can replace that habit?

So is it safe to then say the mindset & identity and intention behind it is important. And why just having weightloss as a goal or unrealistic expectation is where people fall off

Health benefits -responsive

Recognise these amazing changes and progress- and how to celebrate it internally (think more positive about the changes and success/ rather than feeling like a fraud and I can't be positive about it)

But even though scales haven't moved at all in a year, and I want to lose another 10kg, but I've had so much more success elsewhere. How does someone recognise and change their thoughts as we always relate back to scales as 'success'

Mood and energy diaries

How do you feel

This can be a big reason why coaches are so important and valuable in this process - they teach you how to look for success

Progress

They help shift your mindset and inject you with confidence

This is exactly how i help my girls and you get out so much more from the process than just

Self talk

Theres this post that circulates that i hate TF out of and thats it takes 21 days or whatever to create a habit and 66 to make it automatic

I love the GOALS WILL SHIFT because this will be perfect to sum it up - as THAT IS the process and why the process is the whole damn goal

Thats life

Is there anything else you want to say about the importance of focusing on this process, on feels & habits over what we want out of them?

Q: What are the barriers to change?

Someone thinks they are ready for change

Habits don’t die

It’s a slow process

Little things at a time

They feel its not worth their time

And when life is crazy or work is crazy, (it always is and we kid ourselves saying its going to calm down)

Our brain loves easy

Yet we try to complicate things more because SM makes it look fancy

And we can do this with the way we approach food, always needing a whole new thing every single day instead of having a routine, or something on autopilot

PULL goal

FEEL like

BE LIKE

“goal”

“time”

Social media doesn’t have time

It has now now now or you are behind

Results should be a weekly metric like fuck off haha

“consciously”

Understanding yourself