Orion Kelly, an autistic individual, shares his journey of self-identification, being an autistic father, and partner. Topics include debunking stereotypes, empowering through content creation, challenges of co-occurring conditions, communication struggles, differentiating shutdowns, meltdowns, and burnouts, navigating demand avoidance, and promoting autism awareness through his book.
Autism awareness has evolved, leading to late diagnoses, debunking intellectual link to autism.
Balancing masking autistic traits as a father to navigate parenting, highlighting challenges faced.
Deep dives
Understanding Autism and Intellectual Disability
Autism is not intellectually linked despite past misconceptions. The speaker, Orion Kelly, discusses his late discovery of being autistic, largely due to his son's diagnosis. He highlights the generational shift in autism awareness and the struggle faced by undiagnosed individuals in the past.
Challenges of Being an Autistic Parent
Being an autistic father to an autistic child presents unique challenges. Kelly explains the balancing act required to suppress his autistic traits to navigate parenting effectively. He delves into the dilemma of masking his true self to prevent triggers and maintain a stable relationship with his son.
Navigating Neurodiverse Relationships
In a neurodiverse relationship, Kelly notes the benefits and complexities. While his neurotypical partner offers invaluable support and understanding, he questions the longevity of such partnerships based on anecdotes from others. The dynamics of different wavelengths in relationships are explored, emphasizing the importance of acceptance and mutual support across neurodiversity.
Understanding Demand Avoidance in Autism
Kelly addresses the concept of demand avoidance in autistic individuals, clarifying it as a reaction to perceived challenges or overwhelming expectations. He highlights the misconceptions around laziness or stubbornness, emphasizing the impact of demands on autistic routines and routines. The narrative underscores the need for understanding and accommodating individual needs in neurodiverse settings.
In this episode I’m talking with Orion Kelly who has a YouTube channel and podcast and also has written a book called Autism Feels…An Earthling’s Guide. Orion talks about how he found out he’s autistic and what it’s like to be an autistic father and partner. You’ll meet this fascinating guest and hear his deep insights into what it’s like to be an autistic person.