It's Been a Minute Dreading family conflict? Here's some advice.
Nov 26, 2025
Marielle Segarra, host of NPR's Life Kit, shares her expertise on navigating family conflicts during the holidays. She discusses the importance of setting clear intentions before gatherings and offers practical strategies like redefining boundaries and using humor to deflect tension. Experts advise on avoiding unnecessary confrontations, utilizing polite exits, and even meditating between relatives. Strategies are sprinkled throughout to ensure family gatherings remain joyful rather than contentious, emphasizing care and understanding amidst inevitable disagreements.
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Set A Clear Intention Beforehand
- Decide why you're attending family gatherings before you go so you have a clear anchor.
- Use that purpose to guide your responses when tension rises.
Protect Your Peace By Avoiding Engagement
- Avoid engaging when you lack time or energy and protect your peace.
- Stay busy with tasks or sit with someone to absorb attention and reduce conflict risk.
Use Quick Exit Lines
- Use simple exit lines to leave uncomfortable interactions quickly and politely.
- Say things like "I'm going to get a snack" or use children as natural exits.
