The Thais Gibson Podcast

How to Overcome BIG TRIGGERS as a Fearful Avoidant

Aug 29, 2024

Explore the emotional labyrinth of Fearful Avoidant attachment and discover how past traumas shape your triggers. Learn about your body’s instinctual responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Unpack the BTEA framework—Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions—to understand and reprogram your reactions. Gain insights on transforming survival into thriving, while also picking up tools for personal growth. This engaging discussion provides actionable strategies to reclaim emotional balance and improve your relationships.

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Quick takeaways

Understanding the interplay of past traumas and emotional triggers is essential for those with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style to reclaim emotional balance.

The BTEA framework provides a structured approach to identify and reprogram unhealthy patterns related to beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and actions in relationships.

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Understanding Triggers and Their Impact

A trigger evokes a strong emotional response due to its association with past traumas or distressing events. Triggers can be sensory, like a specific smell, or situational, stemming from current interactions that remind individuals of past painful experiences. When a trigger occurs, the subconscious mind retrieves associated memories and emotions, causing an overwhelming response that can lead to regretful actions in relationships. This automatic reaction underscores that these feelings are not consciously chosen, highlighting the need for greater self-awareness and emotional regulation.

Intro

11min

Navigating Triggers and Embracing Thriving Through Coaching

2min

Understanding the BTEA Cycle: Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, and Actions

6min

Empowering Transformation Through Knowledge and Strategy

2min

In this episode of The Thais Gibson Podcast, we dive deep into the challenges faced by those with a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, often referred to as disorganized attachment. If you find yourself struggling with intense triggers in your relationships—leading to actions you later regret—this episode is for you. We explore the roots of these emotional responses, the impact of past traumas, and how your subconscious mind plays a role in perpetuating these cycles.

Through understanding how triggers work, both emotionally and physiologically, you'll gain insights into why you might feel overwhelmed and stuck in certain situations. We discuss the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses, and how they manifest in those with Fearful Avoidant tendencies.

This episode also introduces the BTEA framework—Beliefs, Thoughts, Emotions, Actions—and how you can start identifying and reprogramming your own patterns. By the end of the episode, you'll have a clearer understanding of your triggers and actionable steps to start healing and transforming your relationships.

Tune in for a mini-masterclass on overcoming your biggest triggers and reclaiming your emotional balance, and stay tuned for an exercise that will help you map out your personal triggering patterns. Whether you're seeking to stop sabotaging your relationships or simply want to move from a state of surviving to thriving, this episode provides the tools you need to start that journey.

Timestamps:

00:00:00 - Intro

00:02:00 - What Is a Trigger?

00:05:36 - What Is Happening In This Triggering Event

00:06:14 - Emotions Commonly Felt When Triggered

00:06:53 - Fight or Flight Response

00:07:38 - The Amygdala and Hypothalamus

00:10:15 - Strain that Triggers Put on the Mind and Body

00:12:14 - IAT Fall Promo

00:13:07 - Exercise: BTEA

00:17:47 - 7 Day Free Trial

00:18:59 - Conclusion