TED Talks Daily Is your partner "the one?" Wrong question | George Blair-West
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Jun 20, 2025 
In this engaging conversation, George Blair-West, an author and psychiatrist, delves into the complexities of modern love and marriage. He presents four essential questions couples should ask before tying the knot. Blair-West reveals how early relationship mismatches can foreshadow future breakdowns. He explores the significance of informed partner selection and challenges the notion of 'the one,' emphasizing that commitment and mutual growth often lead to lasting love.
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Mismatch Root of Relationship Breakdowns
- Relationship breakdown often stems from emerging mismatches rather than blame.
- Problems frequently start before commitment like marriage or children.
Longer Dating Lowers Divorce Risk
- Longer dating before marriage reduces divorce risk significantly.
- Waiting about 3.5 years decreases divorce likelihood by nearly half.
Wrong Question: "Is The One?"
- Asking "Is my partner the one?" is the wrong question.
- This question may increase the chances of divorce rather than prevent it.