10% Happier with Dan Harris The Likeability Trap | Alicia Menendez
May 23, 2022
In this discussion, Alicia Menendez, an award-winning journalist and author of "The Likeability Trap," tackles the complex dynamics of likability in the workplace. She reveals how women often juggle societal expectations of being both assertive and warm, leading to criticism regardless of their approach. Menendez offers insights on the need for equitable feedback and the importance of psychological safety in teams. She also shares strategies for navigating communication while maintaining authenticity, making a compelling case for change in workplace dynamics.
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Introvert Overcompensation
- Alicia Menendez discovered she's an introvert overcompensating as an extrovert at work, leading to exhaustion.
- This revelation highlighted the difference between her projected confidence and internal experience.
Conflicting Advice
- Early in her career, Alicia received conflicting advice about her appearance, highlighting the subjectivity of feedback.
- She changed her hair based on one person's feedback, only to be criticized for it by another.
Subjective Feedback
- Women receive excessive critical, subjective feedback on style, not skills, hindering their development.
- This feedback focuses on voice, appearance, and body language, rather than concrete work performance.
