Swoon: Love Lessons with Julie and Gina Crazy in Love: Having Needs vs Being Needy
Sep 2, 2019
Are you confusing having needs with being needy? Explore the art of asking for what you want without passive aggression. Learn how to balance interdependence and independence in relationships. Discover the impact of incompatible needs and how to communicate your desires directly. Hear how silly disputes, like doing dishes, can reveal deeper emotional needs. Plus, a handy Nonviolent Communication tool helps map out your judgments and feelings for clearer discussions. Tune in for practical advice to navigate love with confidence!
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Needs Aren't The Same As Neediness
- Having needs doesn't make you needy; hiding needs often builds resentment.
- Voicing needs prevents surprising disappointments and shows up more honestly in relationships.
Ask Directly, Not By Hinting
- Ask directly for what you want instead of hinting or expecting mind-reading.
- Make requests (not demands) to increase the chance your partner can meet your need and to give them the chance to give.
State Your Want When Inviting
- When inviting a partner, state your desire rather than masking it as a neutral question.
- Saying 'I want to go' clarifies your intention and gives your partner the chance to join or negotiate honestly.
