How to Speak So That People Listen: #1 Rule for Getting the Support You Need
Mar 28, 2024
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Lisa Bilyeu, co-founder of Quest Nutrition and president of Impact Theory Studios, shares her inspiring journey from feeling confined by traditional expectations to becoming a successful entrepreneur. She discusses the framework she developed to communicate effectively with loved ones, ensuring they support her ambitions. The conversation delves into navigating difficult conversations, understanding varying perspectives, and using empathy to enhance relationships. Listeners will discover actionable insights to foster better conversations and keep cherished connections strong.
Prioritize happiness over external expectations in relationships.
Understand frame of reference to improve communication in relationships.
Embrace a forward-looking mindset when facing societal norms.
Resilience and self-validation are key in defying societal expectations.
Deep dives
Making Decisions Based on Your Happiness
In navigating a decision to marry someone against her father's wishes, Lisa prioritizes her own happiness over external expectations. Despite her traditional Greek family's disapproval, she chooses to follow her heart and marry the man she loves, Tom.
Understanding Frame of Reference in Interpersonal Relationships
Lisa emphasizes the importance of understanding frame of reference in navigating interpersonal relationships. By recognizing her dad's viewpoints and respecting his concerns while also honoring her own desires, she exemplifies the power of self-awareness and empathy in communication.
Empowering Decision-Making with 'What If It Works Out?' Mindset
Lisa embraces a forward-looking mindset of 'What if it works out?' when facing decisions against societal norms. By focusing on the potential positive outcomes and staying true to her aspirations, she empowers herself to take risks and pursue her dreams.
Resilience in Defying Expectations And Embracing Self-Validation
Throughout her journey, Lisa demonstrates resilience in defying societal expectations and embracing self-validation. She remains steadfast in her decisions, even when faced with opposition, emphasizing the importance of staying true to oneself and taking ownership of personal choices.
Taking Control of Your Story and Decisions
Empowerment lies in making decisions that align with your story, even if they lead to potential failure. By understanding your motivations and potential outcomes, you can prevent self-doubt and external influences from impacting your self-esteem. Focus on making choices that resonate with your true desires, regardless of external expectations or perceived notions of failure.
Shifting Frame of Reference for Personal Growth
Challenge the established frame of reference in your life to pursue personal growth and fulfillment. Recognize the impact of conditioned beliefs and societal norms on your decisions. Communicate openly and respectfully with others to navigate changes in perspectives and relationships, fostering understanding and growth.
Building Confidence Through Action and Self-Awareness
Confidence is a skill that requires practice and action. Take incremental steps towards your goals, acknowledging that confidence is a result of consistent effort. Embrace self-awareness and understand that taking action, even in moments of self-doubt, is essential for personal development and building confidence.
Disclaimer
The podcast episode is presented for educational and entertainment purposes only. The content shared does not substitute professional advice from licensed therapists or professionals. Listeners are encouraged to seek appropriate guidance for individual concerns or needs.
Today you’re learning the best relationship advice no one ever tells you.
Because the BEST relationships start with better conversations.
Nobody teaches you that.
If you’ve ever been in a situation where family and friends don’t agree with you, or they don’t like the direction you’re taking your life, it’s frustrating.
Not knowing how to deal with that can damage relationships with people you love.
Today’s episode will teach you how to speak so that people listen, so you can keep the people in your life that you really care about.
Today Lisa Bilyeu joins Mel on the podcast. Lisa is the co-founder of the billion-dollar brand Quest Nutrition and president of Impact Theory Studios. Her wildly successful career started with a childhood dream to make movies. But in a traditional Greek family that didn’t support her ambitions and wanted her to be a housewife, that dream caused a lot of friction.
Lisa had to build a framework for having difficult conversations and get the people she loved to understand her dreams and support her career. This framework made it easier to go after her dreams, while staying close to the people she loved.
Learn how YOU can use this framework so that people in your life want to listen when you speak.
For more resources, including the link to Lisa’s book, Radical Confidence, click here for the podcast episode page.
