Ask Uncut - Hall Passes & Pretending Cheating Never Happened

Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deep and burning questions!
Britt is apparently giving Stiffler’s mum vibes and Laura feels very validated about everyone’s hatred for exhaust/extraction fans!

Vibes for the week:
Laura - Lucky Boy Podcast
Britt - Adolescence on Netflix 
Keeshia - Inherited Podcast with Michelle Andrews

Then we jump into your questions!
WHEN TO TELL DATES THAT I CAN’T HAVE A BABY
I’m venturing back into dating as a single girl in her early 30s after a very toxic relationship ending a few months ago. I also found out last year that I’m unable to have my own children due to some bad health issues. This was devastating as I always saw myself being a mum one day. My question is, at what stage do I disclose this to potential partners? A couple of dates in? It feels really heavy and most people I meet seem to want kids so I’m mindful of wasting their time but I’m unsure how to approach this.

COUPLE FRIENDS PRETENDING CHEATING DIDN’T HAPPEN
My boyfriend’s best friend has a great partner and three kids who have become a big part of our life. We always saw them as the perfect family—until two months ago, when we found out he’d been cheating for a year and got a girl pregnant. His partner was the one who told us and asked us not to say anything (she’s a very proud person and was obviously a mess) I supported her of course trying to say all the right things, but nearly three months later, she’s still with him, seemingly in denial, while he acts like nothing happened. My boyfriend and I are struggling with all the lies as he used their friendship to cover his tracks multiple times. Do I keep being friends with them and pretend this didn’t cause so much hurt? I’m worried we will lose these kids because we have hardly seen them since and we really just don’t know what to do! Advice please!

CAN WE SUCCESSFULLY HAVE A HALL PASS?
My partner of 7 years has asked what I would think of having a ‘hall pass’ for one night with a random. We are 25 and he says he would like to experience another sexual partner since we’ve been together since we were 18. I am not opposed to the idea and have thought about it before. He has said it would be a stranger and only once and we would never tell each other when/where/who once we’d done it. I am leaning towards a yes but have an underlying fear that our relationship wouldn’t be the same afterwards. He is 100% my penguin and I believe we will last a lifetime for sure. I guess my question for you is, is this a reasonable request and what boundaries would you put around it?

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