Vix Anderton: Overcoming Perfectionism & Leading With Authenticity | EP 40

Vix Anderton is a somatic coach, authentic relating teacher, author, and self-described recovering perfectionist...

In her own words, she spent over 15 years chasing achievement, striving to feel good enough, all in high-stress environments. This included her service in the UK Royal Air Force, and working as an advisor & consultant in corporate settings

In pursuit of deeper liberation by working for herself, she doubled down on her famliar strategies of perfectionism, which ultimately led to burnout in her corporate role & set her on a journey of healing & deeper self discovery

Drawing on her extensive experience in high-stress environments, from war zones to boardrooms, her work today is rooted in the foundational understandings of embodiment - using the principles of the nervous system, cyclical living & authentic relating to help resonating perfectionists bravely build more sustainable & authentic ways of being.

Her passion lies in helping individuals overcome the internalized oppression that perfectionism brings upon us, enabling them to reconnect with themselves, others, and the world around them. She is dedicated to guiding others in unlocking their inner wisdom, nurturing resilience, and expanding their embodied range, empowering them to navigate life's uncertainties with grace and confidence.

Within our conversation together, we address this phenomenon of perfectionsim – discussing it as a coping mechanim that leads to unhelpful strategies in life, which tend to lead to repetitive behaviors that are not helpful for our long-term happiness nor wellbeing. Rather than supporting us, they become a collection of habits and patterns we use to protect ourselves. And while these mechanisms can be highly effective, they do come at a very high cost:

In our attempts to guard ourselves, we also prevent ourselves from being truly seen by others.

We discuss how the essential pillars of embodied awareness and resourcing ourselves can support the development of deeper range, allowing us to discover new ways of operating, so we're no longer confined by these old strategies

We also touch on the modality of authentic relating, which has deeply influenced my own journey a few years back, supporting me to recover a deeper authenticity with myself and also foster deeper connections with others – and within that, we explore elements such as authenticity and what it truly means to experience relational intimacy with someone

At its core, we explored that the more deeply we welcome every aspect of ourselves, the more comfortable we become in our own authentic expression, reducing the need to hide behind masks such as perfectionism. We also explored key principles embedded in the practice of authentic relating, offering a framework to create more depth and connection with ourselves and others

And as always, these are only some of the subject matters that we address

If you’re a man who perpetually struggles under the weight of your inner critic—demanding more from yourself, seeking perfection, yet at the same time desiring deeper harmony with yourself and others—this one’s for you...

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Connect with Vix Anderton

Website: https://vixanderton.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vix_anderton

Read Vix's Book "Enough: An Imperfect Antidote to Perfectionism": https://www.amazon.com/Enough-Imperfect-Perfectionism-Vix-Anderton/dp/B0BBPY7BXD?source=ps-sl-shoppingads-lpcontext&ref_=fplfs&psc=1&smid=ATVPDKIKX0DER

Connect with Alex Lehmann:

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