

Does Parenting Make You a Better Person? (with Erik Hoel)
In a heartfelt conversation, neuroscientist Erik Hoel shares his insights on the transformative power of parenting. He argues that becoming a parent can enhance emotional richness and counteract jadedness. Hoel discusses how different parenting styles shape children's personalities and dives into the world of children's literature, sharing both beloved and critiqued classics. The challenges of elite education and concerns around homeschooling are also examined, emphasizing the impact of societal pressures on modern parents and their pursuit of meaning.
01:24:18
Life Before Kids
- Russ Roberts notes Erik Hoel's claim that parenting makes you a better person.
- Hoel prefaces this by admitting life before kids felt boring, despite past experiences like Burning Man.
Shift in Focus
- Erik Hoel argues parenting shifts one's focus from self-optimization to caring for a child.
- This transition can be a relief from the "exhaustion of being a utility monster."
Happiness and Kids
- The impact of children on happiness is subjective and varies greatly among individuals.
- Preconceived notions and personal experiences heavily influence perspectives on parenting.
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Intro
00:00 • 4min
The Complexities of Parenting
03:35 • 11min
The Evolution of Children's Literature
14:50 • 10min
The Emotional Journey of Parenting
24:22 • 30min
Navigating Elite Education and the Homeschooling Debate
54:40 • 5min
Exploring the Statistics Behind Child Protective Services and Homeschooling
59:32 • 2min
Understanding CPS: Misunderstandings and Misreports
01:01:44 • 6min
Navigating Modern Parenthood
01:07:41 • 17min

The Hat
Jan Brett
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The Garden
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Jon Gordon

The home stage
Jessica Todd Harper
The Home Stage by Jessica Todd Harper is a photographic series that captures the intricate dynamics of family life, using the home as a stage to explore themes of intimacy, beauty, and the psychological depth of domestic relationships. The book is part of a broader body of work that reflects Harper's interest in making intimate portraits where environment plays a significant role.

Trouble with Trolls
Jan Brett
In 'Trouble with Trolls', Treva embarks on a journey up Mount Baldy with her dog Tuffi, only to encounter a series of trolls who long for a dog. Using her wit and intelligence, Treva cleverly outsmarts each troll, showcasing her bravery and quick thinking. The story is filled with adventure and beautifully detailed illustrations, typical of Jan Brett's style.
The Very Hungry Caterpillar
The Very Hungry Caterpillar
Eric Carle
The Very Hungry Caterpillar is a children's picture book written and illustrated by Eric Carle. The story follows a tiny caterpillar that hatches from an egg and begins eating through various foods each day of the week. After overeating on Saturday, the caterpillar gets a stomachache but feels better after eating a green leaf on Sunday. The caterpillar then builds a cocoon and emerges as a beautiful butterfly. The book incorporates elements of early childhood education, including counting, days of the week, and the life cycle of a butterfly. It is known for its iconic collage artwork and educational content.

Castle
David Macaulay
David Macaulay's 'Castle' is a Caldecott Honor-winning book that vividly illustrates the construction of a fictional medieval castle, Aberwyvern, set in North West Wales during the late 13th century. The book provides a comprehensive look at the architectural and historical aspects of castle building, blending technical details with engaging storytelling. It explores not only the physical structure but also the lives of those involved in its construction and daily life within the castle.

The mitten
a Ukrainian folktale
Jan Brett
The Mitten, based on a Ukrainian folktale, tells the story of Nicki, a young boy who loses his white mitten in the snow. Unbeknownst to him, a series of animals find the mitten and crawl inside for warmth, leading to a humorous and climactic conclusion. Jan Brett's detailed illustrations bring the story to life, blending humor and cultural elements.

Six seasons
Barada Ukil

The elephant
Sławomir Mrozek
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Calvin and Hobbes
Bill Watterson
This book is the first collection of the Calvin and Hobbes comic strip, which was published starting from November 18, 1985. It introduces readers to Calvin, a imaginative and energetic six-year-old boy, and his best friend Hobbes, who is either a real tiger or a stuffed toy depending on the perspective. The strip is known for its blend of humor, surrealism, and poignant commentary on childhood and imagination. The early strips in this collection showcase Watterson's developing drawing style and the initial characterizations of Calvin and Hobbes.

In Search of Lost Time
Swann's Way
Stephane Heuet
Marcel Proust
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Autobiography
Benjamin Franklin
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Peter Pan
J. M. Barrie
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Winnie-The-Pooh
A. A. Milne
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Curious George
H. A. Rey
Margret Rey
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Goodnight Moon
Margaret Wise Brown
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One World
Wendell L. Willkie
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Seven Silly Eaters
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Phyllis Reynolds Naylor

Open
an autobiography
Andre Agassi
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Does parenting make you a better person? Can it improve your life? Neuroscientist Erik Hoel makes the self-interested case for parenting arguing that it makes you less jaded and more heartbroken (in a good way) for how you experience the world. Listen as new father Hoel speaks with EconTalk host Russ Roberts about the universal and particular truths surrounding parenting, and why the perception presented by the media is often at odds with our own experience. Topics include different parenting styles and their effects, how parents shape children's personalities and preferences, and the famous children's books that both men love and hate. The conversation closes with a discussion of the reliability of recent studies condemning homeschooling.