Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women 396: Why your wife doesn't want to have sex with you (anymore) (ft. Jason Lange)
Jan 16, 2026
01:03:31
Do any of these apply to you?:
- You used to have a good sex life with your partner, but now it has flatlined
- You're in a sexless marriage but at a loss with respect to how to even bring this up with your woman (or you've tried in the past and it went poorly)
- You fear never having passionate, connected sex again
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These are all common patterns we see in our practice.
Here we outline the 5 most common reasons we've seen for this pattern, and some stories of men who've done the work and now have vibrant, thriving sex lives. Passion is possible!
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Mentioned on this episode:
- DM 222: Are you using your woman for sex?
- DM 217: When sex is about more than just the sex
- DM 358: Do you trust men?
- DM 103: Reverse polarity can kill your sex life as a couple -- you need to know about this
- DM 262: Are you lonely?
- DM 1: What if sex hurts for your partner or she doesn't want it? A woman opens up about her experience
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Memorable quotes from this episode:
- “Your relationship is flat.”
- “I’m gonna ask in a way I can’t be rejected.”
- “‘I tend to wait for the signal.’”
- “I’ve neglected my partner before.”
- “For a lot of guys, ejaculation is how they deal with tension in their bodies.”
- “One of the most painful ways we’ve seen this show up is when this wasn’t clear when they got married.”
- “'I want to feel your desire to be close to me, to know my heart, to know my feelings.'”
- “This is her strongest aphrodisiac!”
- “I’m getting off all the feelings I don’t want to feel.”
- “It’s not so much what we’re doing, but how we’re being.”
- “The pathway to the change you want comes from being honest.”
- “It can change — that’s the good news.”