The One Inside: An Internal Family Systems (IFS) podcast

IFS and Adoptees with Kathy Mackechney

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Oct 6, 2023

In this podcast, Kathy Mackechney, a relinquishee-adoptee and IFS-certified therapist, discusses the importance of recognizing adoptees as a special population. She explores the emotional weight of the words 'relinquished' and 'adopted' for adoptees, as well as the need to connect with birth mothers. The chapter also touches on alternative activities and promotes the speaker's book and website.

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Introduction

00:00 • 2min

Gardening Habits and Free Time between Sessions

01:31 • 2min

Recognizing Adoptees as a Special Population

03:46 • 13min

The Emotional Weight of the Words 'Relinquished' and 'Adopted' for Adoptees

16:58 • 2min

Exploring the Importance of Connecting with Birth Mothers for Adoptees

18:44 • 21min

Conversation about alternative activities and promoting book and website

40:11 • 2min

On today's podcast I chat with Kathy Mackechney, who wrote a chapter in Altogether Us.

Kathy is a relinquishee-adoptee whose purpose is helping other adoptees heal the burdens of having been relinquished, or removed, and adopted. She is a Level-3 trained, IFS-certified therapist and consultant wtih a private practice in Denver.

We talk about:

Helping adoptees feel heard and understood
Shifting language from adoption-industry and adoptive-parent-centric perspective to language that centers the experience of the person who was relinquished, and therefore needed to be adopted- hence the term 'relinquishee' or 'survivor of infant-mother separation'
Educating 'biologicals' about why adoptees should be recognized as a marginalized group
Why 'Not all Parts Get Adopted"
How Self gets exiled
Importance of using Implicit Direct Access
Possible Parts who may be found (Not me, Dismissed, sense of being alone, Relationship stressors, Control, Self doubt, Second quessing).

You can find out more about Kathy and her "Not all Parts get Adopted" workshop here: Adoptee Therapy, LLC

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