Do you really know? Could textertunism be damaging your friendships?
Jul 12, 2025
Have you ever noticed a friend who only texts you when they need something? This dynamic, known as textertunism, can damage relationships and leave you feeling used. The discussion reveals the emotional impact of one-sided texting and emphasizes the importance of open communication. Is it really that bad to ask for favors via text? Find out how to navigate these tricky interactions and foster more balanced friendships in just a few minutes!
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What is Textertunism?
- A "textertunist" only texts when they need something, making the relationship feel one-sided and transactional.
- This dynamic can harm self-esteem and feels like ghosting due to lack of reciprocity and attention to the other person's needs.
Emotional Impact of Textertunism
- Consistently one-sided texting can make people feel unsupported and used in a friendship.
- Such vulnerability is not expected in healthy social relationships, signaling an unhealthy dynamic.
Dealing with Textertunism
- Don't assume your friend texts only to hurt you; they may dislike texting or limit it due to overwhelm.
- Address imbalances by having an open, frank conversation and prefer calls or meetups over texts.