Expert in lesbian dating, Jordan Harvey, explores topics like self-discovery as a lesbian, taking initiative in relationships, dealing with dating deception, and managing power dynamics in relationships with new LGBTQ+ members.
Navigating dating as a lesbian in a conservative environment requires subtlety and careful testing of waters for safety.
Transitioning from secretive to open relationships involves self-discovery, evolving dating preferences, and embracing confidence.
Deep dives
Navigating Dating at a Christian University
At Liberty University, the speaker, Harvey, utilized subtlety to navigate dating women due to stringent rules prohibiting premarital sex and being gay. Presenting as femme, she approached women discreetly with subtle compliments, gradually testing the waters to gauge interest and ensure safety in a potentially hostile environment.
Transitioning into Open Identity and Dating
After moving to San Diego and gradually embracing her identity publicly, Harvey transitioned from secretive relationships to openly dating women. As she gained confidence, her dating preferences evolved from pursuing more masculine partners to seeking feminine companions, demonstrating a journey of self-discovery and growth.
Challenges and Growth in Dating Women
Harvey's dating experiences reflect a mix of successes and setbacks, including experiences with catfishing, navigating app-based dating strategies, and adjusting from dating men to dating women. Encouraging new LGBTQ+ individuals to be patient, authentic, and respectful of individual paces, she emphasizes the importance of understanding and respecting each other's journey.
Supporting New LGBTQ+ Partners
Addressing the complexities of dating someone new to same-sex relationships, Harvey advises adapting to their emotional and physical pace, avoiding pressure or power dynamics in the relationship. By fostering a safe and nurturing environment, she highlights the significance of mutual respect, communication, and self-reflection in fostering healthy, supportive partnerships.
We got your dating questions... and Jordan Harvey is here to answer them! Jordan and Mal sit down to chat about the intricacies of dating women for the first time and the questions that come up - how do I figure out what my type is? Who makes the first move? Who pays for the date? What are the best apps for queer women? And many more. So listen up, take notes, and best of luck out there! Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your crush! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal @malglowenke