Pillow Talks E235: How Your Phone Is Secretly Sabotaging Your Connection (and what to do about it)
Nov 20, 2025
Discover how phones are impacting intimacy more than you think. The hosts challenge themselves to a tech detox before intimacy, revealing surprising effects on connection. They share listeners’ stories of phone distractions in relationships and explore how distractions can breed resentment. Learn practical phone boundaries and the benefits of focused time together. With results including increased playfulness and daily intimacy, this discussion highlights the importance of prioritizing relationships over screens.
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Phones Cause Slow-Burning Resentment
- Phones create resentment by making partners feel second-best to a device.
- Small repeated slights build into a "death by a thousand cuts" that harms connection.
Try No Screens Before Sex
- Try a week of "No screens before sex" and treat intimacy broadly, not only intercourse.
- Earn screen time by prioritizing connecting (cuddling, heart-to-heart, or making out) first.
Phone Breaks Sap Intimacy Energy
- Short phone checks drain energy and focus, making intimacy less likely.
- Removing screens restores attention and makes intimacy a natural next priority.