The Sabrina Zohar Show 157: Why You Obsess Over Your Ex & How to Stop
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Aug 22, 2025 Heartbreak can feel like the end of the world, but understanding the neuroscience behind it can help. Discover why your brain gets stuck on an ex and learn that closure is often a myth. Explore the biochemical effects of breakups and how attachment styles influence your feelings. Dive into the importance of genuine healing versus mere avoidance while navigating recovery. Plus, find out how sleepless nights can aid emotional processing and the power of micro goals in rebuilding resilience and personal growth.
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How Your Brain Predicts You’ll Get Them Back
- The default mode network (DMN) locks into prediction loops after a breakup, making you imagine only one future with that person.
- Novel experiences break those predictions and force the DMN to create new, safer stories.
Personal Memory Shapes Attachment Expectations
- Sabrina shares that her father always returned, illustrating childhood lessons that form hopeful prediction patterns.
- She warns that return isn't necessarily positive and shouldn't justify holding on forever.
Force New Predictions With Novel Input
- Do pattern-interrupts and introduce novel input when you feel your mind spiraling about your ex.
- Reframe