Stephan Labossiere is a certified relationship coach and author dedicated to helping people navigate their romantic lives. In this engaging conversation, he discusses signs of unfulfilling relationships and the importance of emotional maturity. The duo emphasizes self-awareness and vulnerability as key to attracting genuine love. Stephan also explores the balance between personal growth and connection, advocating for open communication and mutual respect. The conversation wraps up with valuable advice on healing after breakups and the power of authenticity in love.
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Evaluate Your Own Love First
Evaluate your own feelings first.
Ensure you truly love someone before assessing their love for you.
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Connection vs. Chemistry
Connection is rare and deeper, unlike fleeting chemistry or sparks.
True connection involves aligned paths and shared purposes.
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Honesty in Relationships
Be honest with yourself about why you're staying in a relationship.
If the foundation isn't strong, you're wasting time.
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Today, I sit down with Stephan Labossiere to talk about breakups and relationship building. We exchange thoughts on the importance of emotional maturity and how it greatly helps couples resolve misunderstandings, the reasons most relationships are dubbed challenging and difficult, understanding what a love cycle is and how emotionally damaging it is, and healing your trauma and working on yourself first are the first steps to attracting the right partner.
Stephan Labossiere a.k.a Stephan Speaks is a man on a mission, and that mission is to make relationships happier and more fulfilling. As a certified relationship coach, a speaker and author, Stephan seizes every opportunity to help both men and women overcome the challenges that hinder their relationships. Some of his most popular books are Love After Heartbreak, He's Lying Sis: Uncover the Truth Behind His Words and Actions, and The Man God Has For You: 7 Traits To Help You Determine Your Life Partner.
You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.
What We Discuss:
00:00 Intro
01:40 What are the signs that someone deeply loves you?
04:01 Both partners need to be emotionally ready to grow love
08:56 Compatibility is about two people co-existing in harmony
13:10 How do you differentiate connection and chemistry, and what stage are you in?
16:51 Is anything that is not sustainable not healthy for any relationship?
21:15 Allowing children to discover themselves and their interests helps them become more self-aware
24:16 Why are most relationships difficult and become a continuous struggle?
29:13 The love advice you’ve probably heard but shouldn’t practice
34:07 Why do you need to nurture both of your masculine and feminine energy?
43:23 This is how you test the compatibility you have with your partner
46:42 Learn about the unhealthy love cycle that often causes relationships to fail
55:14 Aim to become the best you and you start to attract the right person
58:16 Focus on the healing from everything that you’ve been through, not just from your breakup
On Purpose with Jay Shetty 
